This Mother Went In On People Who Said Her Black Daughter's Friends Were Racist

By Mustafa Gatollari

Updated Oct. 12 2018, 4:22 p.m. ET

America's more politically divided than ever, despite Trump's promises to be a unifying president during his campaign trail and right up to his inauguration into the Oval Office.

A lot of that political divide has to do with racism and the reaction to that racism. Discussions about police brutality against non-white citizens and protesting that brutality, turns into a conversation about being patriotic or not. Trump's travel ban fiasco leaves out citizens from countries that actually committed acts of terrorism on U.S. soil.

Then there's the spreading of anti-immigrant, fake news propaganda in Europe, retweeted by our own president nonetheless, so it's easy to see why the "US versus THEM" mentality is becoming more and more inflated in this country.

Source: getty

Although it's insane to think that today in America there'd actually be a sizable demographic of not only Nazis, but Nazi supporters, and Nazis running for public office, but that's reality. There are obviously a lot of people who are utterly flabbergasted that such clearly hateful ideology is being protected and supported in the USA, so there's a lot of push against this disgusting racism.

Unfortunately, though, that leads to race-baiting, and jumping to conclusions whenever someone sees something that appears to be unjust. Which is unfortunately what seemingly happened when the NBA tweeted out this touching photo of Santa Fe students who were given free Houstin Rockets tickets after suffering a school shooting massacre that killed 10 of their peers.

#SantaFeStrong pic.twitter.com/j5ALaQ8N4L

— NBA (@NBA) May 25, 2018

In the photo, people noticed that all of the white students were holding hands, while the only black girl in the shot was standing, deep in thought, not holding anyone else's hand.

Which some people were quick to call "racism" on.

Who the white girls?? Yeah they did have one job and refused to hold the black chicks hand...their racisms showing BIG TIME.

— the names dey but you pronounce it day (@DeyAndNight) May 26, 2018

But why is Nobody holding the black girls hand.... https://t.co/zfmhvqY3sw

— JARBAS🇧🇷 (@jarbasfaria) May 25, 2018

The thing about the social media accounts is that pretty much anyone can have one if they want. And if you write something about someone that gets a lot of shares, then it's bound to catch the attention of a person who knows the subject personally.

In the case of this "black girl" in the photo, her mother found the tweet and resoundingly told the person in question to mind their business because they had no idea what they were talking about.

The "black girl" is my daughter. It's people like you that keep the race crap stirred up. You just look for ways to make things about race. These girls are her friends. You have no idea what you are talking about so you just need to shut up.

— Lyndarjan (@Lyndarjan1) May 26, 2018

You'd figure that would be the end of the debate right there, that this woman's mother went on Twitter and pointed out that her daughter's friends aren't racist because, you know, she lives and interacts with these people on a daily basis. Apologies should be doled out, people should say sorry for jumping the gun, case closed.

But what if I told you that there are some people, who, despite being shown and told the contrary, will constantly try to confirm their own preconceived notions? Somehow, the conversation continued, and people began questioning the girl's mom about the nature of her daughter's friendships.

If they are her friends why they not holding her hands?

— IG: Summerofdresses (@PoLitaKaLLisa) May 27, 2018

And the mom gave a response so personal that, if I heard it after asking such a question, I'd feel embarrassed.

As it turns out, she wasn't holding her friends' hands because she didn't want to start bawling in a stadium full of people. She did just suffer through a school shooting, you know.

my daughter didn't want to cry before she had to sing and holding hands would have caused her to start crying that's the story nothing about race.

— Lyndarjan (@Lyndarjan1) May 27, 2018

And just when you thought Twitter couldn't get any worse, someone actually asked her to prove that the little girl in the photo is actually her daughter.

Do you even have proof she’s your daughter?

— smh (@Paynereos) May 27, 2018

So she obliged, not without a bit of sass, of course.

I have a birth certificate which you will not be seeing. This is us at senior parent night for band. pic.twitter.com/LQA4D83nxq

— Lyndarjan (@Lyndarjan1) May 27, 2018

And then, in the ultimate act of pettiness, someone still wanted to stick it to the girl's mom and find something to complain about.

u couldve got her hair done before she went on tv like that sheesh

— ruchie (@JoeAiko) May 27, 2018

Others questioned whether or not white parents could explain to a black daughter what racism is.

I wonder how you explain racism to her in all your privilege 🤔

— AudioDopene$$ (@OxygenPernell) May 27, 2018

But the thing is, when you're fundamentally right in an argument, you don't need to try hard to burn the other person.

I let her read these post. Y'all are doing a damn good job.

— Lyndarjan (@Lyndarjan1) May 27, 2018

Finally, her daughter came on Twitter herself to let those who were originally in an uproar over the photo were wrong.

I love this girl to the moon and back. pic.twitter.com/B6ZsTBosrs

— Lyndarjan (@Lyndarjan1) May 27, 2018

There were some who pointed out that the original image was cropped and didn't include two other white students who weren't holding hands either.

Dude look at her previous replies. THE PICTURE WAS CROPPED TO ATTRACT RACISM. THERE WERE OTHER PEOPLE IN THE PIC NOT HOLDING HANDS. WHITE PEOPLE TO BE EXACT. The mother also explains why her daughter wasn't holding their hands. OH AND there's a video up now, FROM THE DAUGHTER. Yw

— Marlana Adkins (@Marzieb00) May 28, 2018

It's right on the NBA's website.

Source: nba

Despite those who didn't want to drop the "racism" argument, there were several people in the comments who pointed out the obvious race-baiting.

Seriously? Not everything has to be about race.... maybe she didn’t want to hold anyone’s hand... unless you were there don’t speak on the situation? You guys reach so much to make everything about race... chill

— daynarra (@idaydayyy) May 25, 2018

And others were there to support Mama Bear and her family.

Girl your response is so embarrassing. You should really consider doing some soul searching. Bless this beautiful family.

— Cassandra (@Cassiedreads) May 28, 2018

You shouldn't have to explain yourself on the internet. Who cares what people think! You have a raised a beautiful daughter!❤️

— Alicia Margarita (@hippieluv1997) May 27, 2018

Including other parents who raised kids of a different ethnicity from their own.

Do right. Teach your kids to do right. Keep being an example. Stand up to those who are divisive, but don't take Twitter trolls personally. pic.twitter.com/sdvUOEXKX5

— Talk GOP (@TalkGOPpod) May 28, 2018

This post had shown me one thing. There are some Awesome people out there. I don't care what color you are. Welcome to my world. The support you've shown my daughter, our family and community is greatly appreciated. 💖💖💖💖💖

— Lyndarjan (@Lyndarjan1) May 29, 2018

It's no secret that racism is an enormous and growing problem in America, but maybe it's best to not make mountains of mole-hills like a cropped NBA photo and just admit when we're wrong about something and someone. Especially when that someone is obviously not racist.

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