Women Share What Not to Do on a First Date
If You're Going On A First Date Then Don't Emulate These Guys
By Mustafa GatollariUpdated Oct. 14 2018, 10:54 p.m. ET
First dates, especially when we're truly excited about the person we're seeing, are palpitation-inducing experiences.
We all get that flicker and glimmer of hope that holy moly I hope this is someone I actually hit it off with and I hope that they feel the same way.
So we try to put our best feet forward. We clean ourselves up. We research the best restaurants in the area that are "first date appropriate." Maybe we even practice our first greeting in the mirror like a loser in some lame romantic comedy.
Because we're so on edge and the very nature of meeting someone for the first time to potentially pursue as a romantic interest, first dates could very easily go into the territory of the cringe-inducing.
Naturally, you'll want to find a way to stop that from happening and while I'm no love guru, I can tell you that avoiding what these guys did is probably a good idea. The question was first brought up on Twitter.
What’s the most cringe worthy thing a guy you’ve dated has done?
— preorder #TheBigO (@Oloni) May 15, 2018And the responses came rolling in. There was this guy whose idea of dinner and drinks was definitely awesome, just not first date awesome.
The guy told me he'd fetch me around 9pm to go out to eat and have drinks.
He showed up at 10pm. On foot. Bought KFC. Offered me Black Label. It was raining. https://t.co/kdRP9VziEi
This guy who really wanted a captive audience.
He kept singing. Like we'd be sitting there and he'd start singing and I've have to sit there and listen in silence. Repeatedly. And when I asked him if we could talk rather than listen to him perform he got PROPERLY annoyed. https://t.co/8E8R1pRfat
— Richard Butler (@rmdbutler) May 15, 2018This guy who equates drinking coffee with getting laid.
Invited him over for coffee, he packed an overnight bag with his own pillow. https://t.co/l8a9E3wZeB
— Eugenie Gregan (@greganeugenie) May 15, 2018This guy who really jumped the gun.
On a 2nd date, known each other a week, a guy brought me on a drive out to Howth to show me a house he liked and thought I'd like too and "maybe one day it could be ours".... 2nd date and last date thank u https://t.co/jqXiuFqDfA
— Zoë (@ZoeGilligan) May 15, 2018This double-dipping moron who couldn't hold back their tears when they were caught.
Cried because their girlfriend caught him LOOL
— Gawjess (@omgeze) May 15, 2018This dude who definitely wasn't a member of the Bey-hive.
Guy told me I was crazy for loving Beyoncé as I do .
Needless to say I never saw him again pic.twitter.com/NWOaSRnUaw
Then there was this dude who really wanted to protect his pride.
Walking back to his car after a date and a car pulls up. Apparently he was talking shit to these guys in his car earlier that day. He started getting rude until three of them jumped out the car so I jumped in front of him and managed to diffuse the situation. I even told them he
— jukai (@basedshxn) May 15, 2018doesn’t drive. They eventually left cause I made them think they had the wrong guy and he turned around to me and said “omg you’re so strong nobody has ever been able to hold me back before.” He was literally hiding behind me 🤨
— jukai (@basedshxn) May 15, 2018Of course there's the obligatory self-deprecating tweet.
Dated me https://t.co/Ps08A0Jlaa
— S (@seanbgoneill) May 15, 2018And people who were willing to share their own embarrassing experiences. Sometimes the cringe is a two-way street.
I ran away from a girl in central London
— Ste (@stephopoka) May 15, 2018She was trying to kiss me, then said I had to go home with her. I made a rapid assessment and then decided to run through a few backstreets near Saville Row. I knew she wouldn’t match me for pace and my stamina was excellent. I’ve never seen or stumbled across her ever since
— Ste (@stephopoka) May 15, 2018Loooool why didn’t you just say no?
— gee🌼 (@peafowlet27) May 15, 2018You think I wasn’t saying no before? I was saying no for about an hour. That was last resort :(
— Ste (@stephopoka) May 15, 2018Looooool that makes sense then. I just dont know what i would do if i were on a date and the guy took off 😭😭
— gee🌼 (@peafowlet27) May 15, 2018I wish we could get cctv footage from that evening. I looked left, then looked right.... and OFF!!
— Ste (@stephopoka) May 15, 2018There was this dude who showed up late and then acted like it was no big deal.
Finally an oloni thread I can join in!! My date was 30 mins late and when I questioned him about it, he replied "I didn't think you'd mind" 😕 He then asked for pictures of what I'd been wearing when I'd gone clubbing the night before #issano
— come get psalm (@irumbaiwill) May 15, 2018This guy who felt a bit insecure about home ownership.
On a first (and only) date, belittled me for owning a house, mocked where I owned my house (a "shithole" apparently) then complained that I asked for a glass of regular red wine when he offered to buy me a drink, because it was "expensive"
— Velvet Cheesyground (@laurabygaslight) May 15, 2018Bonus: he lived with his dad
— Velvet Cheesyground (@laurabygaslight) May 15, 2018This Snapchat tub king.
Asked me to take several snapchat videos of him while he was in the bathtub flexing with a beer in his hand😐
— Alice (@Inrwandaland) May 15, 2018This girl's first date story is absolutely horrifying.
Met this guy, travelled to London (2hrs away) to go out for lunch. He shows up dressed like this grandad, facial hair scruffy, lips dry as hell. I’m annoyed because he was so well put together when we first met😒
— tia (@tiatheyankee) May 15, 2018he GOOGLES a cheap place to go, we get lost, and he proceeds to spend the entire lunch discussing his sexual fetishes and over-complimenting me
— tia (@tiatheyankee) May 15, 2018afterwards we went to a “work party” where all his co-workers flirted with me and completely disrespected him/mugging him off😖 he then tags along to the station and GRABS my shoulders for a kiss.
— tia (@tiatheyankee) May 15, 2018)this man is nearly 30) texts me, a minute and half later. “That was the most amazing kiss, can’t wait to see you again” deleted, blocked, NEVER again🤮🤮🤮
— tia (@tiatheyankee) May 15, 2018*lastly, he called his mom and dad on the date to give them an update. On the date. At the table. I just wanted to eat
— tia (@tiatheyankee) May 15, 2018Then he sent her this memento of their first horrible date together.
last but not least, he kept the restaurant card and sent me this🙂 pic.twitter.com/TSQhCvLIyl
— tia (@tiatheyankee) May 15, 2018So if you're got a first date coming up that you're feeling anxious about you can probably console yourself with the fact that it definitely won't be as awkward/terrible as these were.
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